May 102016
"I have a drinking problem"

“I have a drinking problem” from the movie Airplane 1980

Who is in Charge Here Anyway?

Passengers Behaving Badly

A recent air rage case has gotten a lot of attention lately in the US. Three Spirit Airlines passengers on a flight from Baltimore to Los Angeles have filed a personal injury lawsuit against the airline. The claimants alleged the carrier provided excessive alcohol and failed to protect them from injury, according to a CNN report.

In personal injury cases, there are three primary factors that come into play:

  1. Liability – whether the defendant (Spirit Airlines) was at fault
  2. Amount of damages
  3. Defendant’s ability to pay

In this case, factor three is a non-issue since commercial airlines are deemed to have “deep pockets”. In all reality, the focus will be to get an out of court settlement (i.e.“nuisance” payment) to make the claimants go away.

However, this case brings up more to ponder than how big of a windfall an airline passenger can get. The main point of the case is that  passengers were allegedly over-served by the airline employee.  So, who’s responsible for air rage caused by unruly passengers?

Legal Obligation to Care for Cargo

US federal regulation provides general support for airlines to create and enforce rules of conduct on their planes through the stipulation that they are legally obligated to care for their cargo; in this case human passengers. In an article by Mashable, the regulations state “drinks can’t be served to anyone who ‘appears’ to be intoxicated or who “has a deadly or dangerous weapon accessible to him while aboard the aircraft” (that would only apply to Air Marshals, hopefully).

When I researched Federal Aviation Administration (FAA) policies regarding alcohol consumption for passengers, the only specific guidelines I found were regarding pilots (thank goodness) and the amount/kind of alcohol that can be packed in luggage and/or carried onto a plane. So it’s up to the airlines to create and enforce rules to safeguard their passengers.

Today, it is up to the flight attendant to determine when a passenger has had “enough”. Unfortunately, when the passenger has had enough, it is often too late to control their behavior. Airlines need to create and enforce alcohol drink limits for their passengers before it gets to that point; including a policy to flat out cut off anyone that shows signs of being belligerent on one of their flights. 

Europe is Making a Move

Traveller reports on a recent move by a Scandinavian Airlines (SAS) that has imposed a 3 drink limit for all passengers on flights within Europe. In fact, International Air Transport Association (ISTA) sanctioned a study on the subject called “The Devil in Our Mist”, the devil being the unruly passenger. As a result of the study, the ISTA  called for an action to reduce the number of unruly passengers who disrupt flights through excessive alcohol consumption. However, the ISTA has not made any proposals about alcohol restrictions on flights; this bold move will still be up to the airline to define and enforce.

In regard to US airlines, if the three Spirit Airline passengers win their case, a US commercial airline will have a real economic incentive to do something about unruly passengers, not just ride out a bad behavior until the plane lands.

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Apr 182016

Keep Anger from Becoming Rage

If your temper is hijacking your life, it’s time to take a step back and assess the situation. When anger crosses over and harms you or others, it officially becomes a problem called rage. However, as with most things in life, where there is a problem, there usually is a solution. 

Anger is a Legitimate Emotion

Anger is a real emotion that helps keep us safe and in some cases enables us to be assertive when needed. For example, when a person is suffering from emotional abuse in the workplace or in their home, getting angry can be the catalyst to stop the cycle of abuse.  According to the feeling is not the problem, it’s what you do with it that makes the difference. When anger morphs into rage, you most definitely have a problem. Be assured, however that there are ways to prevent rage from rearing its’ ugly head.

You Have More Control Than You Think

Learning to express your emotions without hurting someone involves looking under the hood, so to speak. To acknowledge that you can have control over your rage is the first step in the process. The next step is to find out what is really behind your anger. 

Covering Up Other Feelings with Anger

Often anger issues can be traced back to coping techniques learned in childhood. Ask yourself the following questions to determine if there is a source for the anger:

  • Are you unable to compromise? (i.e. you always have to be right, otherwise you feel like a failure)
  • Do you have trouble expressing emotions other than anger? (i.e. you avoid fear, guilt or shame like the plague, instead you always act tough and in control, no matter the situation)
  • When someone disagrees with you, do you take it personally? (i.e. you are unable to consider a different opinion or viewpoint, if it’s not yours, it is not right)

In order to achieve self-understanding, emotional awareness must be present. Once there is emotional awareness, the full range of human emotions can be used appropriately, leaving anger as one of many emotions — instead of the “go-to” emotion.


Don’t Give into Fight or Flight

Ever heard of “fight or flight”? Although this is a subconscious reaction to conflict for animals and humans alike, humans are able to circumvent this knee-jerk reaction to stress.  Anger is almost always due to some kind of “trigger” event. 


For example, in a hostile work environment where your work is belittled in front of others, could be a trigger for your anger. In that kind of situation, the feeling of failure is covered up under a nice, neat blanket of anger. 


If you accept that this is out of your control and you do not take it personally, there is a better chance that anger can be kept in check. It doesn’t make that other person’s action acceptable, it just means that you recognize the need for self-preservation, but you are not going to let the other person get to you. The result to knowing your triggers give you a much better chance of keeping your anger in check

If You Must Fight, Fight Fair

Anger happens to all of us. When it does, fighting fair is paramount to preventing anger from turning into rage. You can fight fair by remembering this quick checklist:

  • Are you being respectful of other viewpoints?
  • Are you focusing on the present issue only?
  • Are you choosing this battle or are you arguing to just argue?
  • Are you able to forgive and forget?
  • Are you able to agree to disagree?


Read Life Rage to Find Out More 

If you would like more insight into how anger become rage contact Author Timothy A. Dimoff at 330-255-1101 to order a copy of Life Rage. He will sign it and ship it to you or you can come by his office between the hours of 8am-5pm Monday through Friday to obtain the book! The cost is $20 plus shipping and handling. Order your copy today!

Apr 042016
road rage, life rage, Timothy A. Dimoff, Tim Dimoff

Are you a road rager?

Road Rage, A Daily Occurrence


On April 3, 2016 in Sacramento, California two road rage incidents occurred virtually at the same time according to The Sacramento Bee. One incident took place on Interstate 80 and the other took place at a local drive-thru. Both involved shootings that resulted in injury. The article went on to recap three other road rage incidents that had taken place in the Sacramento area within the last year.


This leads me to pose the question; Has road rage just become a part of everyday life? The answer, unfortunately, seems to be yes. 

Road Rage is On the Rise

Fatal accidents caused by enraged drivers has increased nearly 10 fold since 2004 according to The National Traffic Safety Administration. In 2004, police attributed 26 fatal crashes on our nation’s highways to road rage or aggression. In 2013, the number increased to 247. 


Official Road Rage Guide at the DMV

It is pretty telling that road rage is here to stay when the Department of Motor Vehicles officially recognizes and provides a guide about road rage. 


On their website, the DMV provides suggestions on “how to deal with it”:


  • Back off from aggressive drivers (i.e pull over and let them pass)
  • Know your own driving style (i.e. do you drive too slowly or too aggressively?)
  • Do not be an instigator (i.e. don’t tailgate)
  • Maintain defensive driving skills (i.e. be alert in case someone doesn’t use their turn signals, looks like they are texting or not paying attention)


I would be surprised if there is a driver out there today who hasn’t been a target of some kind of road rage or felt it themselves. I, for one, have experienced road rage either toward my driving or I toward other drivers. Fortunately, it never escalated to violence. When another driver has shown anger toward me it has only resulted in accelerated heartbeat and a palpable fear until I was safely parked in my garage. When I have felt anger toward another driver, it was usually because I was already in a bad mood, or harboring negative feelings about something that happened earlier that day. We must remember that not all driving is aimed at us personally. We as drivers must be aware that there are good choices and bad choices when confronted with road rage. Anger on our highways does not have to end in violence. We must all learn how to control anger.


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If you are looking to learn more about road rage contact Author Timothy A. Dimoff at 330-255-1101! He will sign and ship it to you or you can come by his Akron, Ohio office  between the hours of 8am-5pm, Monday through Friday to obtain the book! The cost is $20 plus shipping and handling.


Mar 282016
Life Rage by Timothy A. Dimoff, life rage, rage triggers

Are you at the tipping point with rage?


Haven’t we’ve been told by various resources like our parents, our friends and media sources that the only way to truly get rid of our rage is to let it out? In fact, we’ve been told that it’s “unhealthy” to bottle it up! Sorry to break the news, but rage is not healthy in any way shape or form. According to a non-for-profit guide to mental health and well being, out-of-control anger, aka rage, can result in a lot of problems including:


  • Physical health problems like heart disease, a weakened immune system, insomnia and of course, high blood pressure
  • Mental health problems including stress, signs of depression
  • Career problems such as alienation, loss of respect and a bad reputation as a hothead which creates a hostile work environment
  • Relationship problems which will label you as hard to trust, someone you have to walk on eggshells around, or basically someone who is unapproachable

So as you can see, rage needs to be stopped in it’s tracks, before it can create a plethora of additional, long-lasting issues for you and the people around you.


Know Your Triggers

People don’t experience rage in a vacuum. Rage is usually based upon a series of events, not just one isolated incident. (Life Rage pg. 29) Before you can control your anger, you must do some internal soul searching to figure out what triggers your rage. Sometimes it’s helpful to even think all the way back to your childhood. 


There may have been a traumatic event that has been internalized that can trigger your rage. Or it may be that you witnessed rage as an everyday, acceptable behavior that has then been hard-wired in you. This could be why you give into rage and fly off the handle, instead of rationally dealing with certain situations. No matter what the trigger is, it is important to identify the source of your rage. Once you have determined whether or not there are significant triggers for your rage, you can begin to prevent it.


Know Your Warning Signs


Unfortunately, it’s not just good enough to know what triggers your rage. Rage happens fast. Your triggers can sneak up on you and before you know it, you’ve blown up! The Conversation has useful tips that can help you prevent your rage. 


Physical Signs of Rage

The way you physically feel when one of your triggers are initiated is very powerful because it is a subconscious reaction to a specific situation/issue. Some physical signs of rage are tightness in your shoulders, increased heart rate, rapid breathing, shaking hands,or a red face.

Behavioral Signs of Rage

There are also behavioral warning signs that need to be acknowledged as identified by Therapist Aid. Although these signs are more easily associated with rage, it is important to recognize that your are doing them. Some signs of rage are:

  • immediately becoming argumentative
  • mind going blank, 
  • becoming physically aggressive, 
  • not able to move on from a particular issue or problem and in turn becoming obsessive about it. 

You must admit these behavior signs though; as denial will not help control your rage. Knowing your warning signs, and taking a moment to acknowledge them is the most effective way to nip your rage in the bud. Once you are able to own up to your behavior, you can move on to rage prevention.


Rage Prevention Strategy

There are life changing actions that can help you move beyond just controlling your rage. In order to truly prevent rage, your life must be open to positive change. 

According to Life Rage by Timothy A Dimoff there are helpful rage prevention techniques that can be incorporated into your life. They include to: 


  • Pursue Simplicity
  • Become Positive
  • Show Gratitude
  • Develop Outward Thinking
  • Accept Change
  • Seek the Spiritual


Read Life Rage to Find Out More About Rage Prevention 

If you are looking to learn more about rage prevention contact Author Timothy A. Dimoff at 330-255-1101 to order your Life Rage copy! He will sign it and ship it to you or you can come by his office between the hours of 8am – 5pm, Monday through Friday to obtain the book! The cost is $20 plus shipping and handling.


Feb 222016
What is your Life Rage Situation?

The reasons behind our rage

We’ve all been there: It’s Monday morning and you’re late for work. Your kids missed the bus so you had to drive them to school. After your kids are safely dropped off, you pull up your briefcase and manage to spill your coffee all over a client file. But is this enough to make someone snap?


More and more we hear about cases of road rage, school shootings and hate crimes. And according to psychologists, the violence that sparked the recent school shootings around the country might not stem from anything new. “People snap when their ability to cope is overwhelmed,” said Dr. Robert Trestman, director of the Center for Correctional Mental Health Services Research at the University of Connecticut Health Center.


As someone who has had moments of near snapping and even been sent over the edge a few times, I’ve learned there are many reasons why people may snap. There are those that snap inward towards themselves often hurting themselves or take their own lives. Others snap outwardly and hurt those around them. There is only so much stress, turmoil or grief a person can handle before something literally snaps in them and they fly off the handle.


So what causes people to snap? And how can we prevent hurting ourselves or those around us? It turns out, our brains are hardwired for violence. Researchers are discovering that sudden violence is launched by neural circuits deep inside the brain that operate beneath the level of consciousness. In confronting a sudden danger, conscious thought can be too slow and can’t handle the task at hand. These rage circuits are located in a region of the brain, the hypothalamus, which also controls other powerful automatic bodily functions, such as hunger, thirst, and sexual behavior – or commonly thought of as our animal instincts. As humans, we tend to avoid violence if we can because engaging in violent behavior is risky. Only very specific types of provocations will trigger the hypothalamic attack area to provoke a furious response.


US neuroscientist R Douglas Fields developed the acronym “LIFEMORTS” to identify potential triggers of sudden intense rage. One or more of these triggers are usually the source that sets someone off.

L: Life or limb

This is the basic question of self-defense. When backed into a corner, we tend to come out fighting. Our flight or fight sense kicks in and we do whatever it takes to protect ourselves.

I: Insult

Whether verbal or physical, we don’t respond well to insults. We are constantly fighting to prove our dominance in our complex social structure and insults easily provoke rage.

F: Family

Our animal instincts tell us to protect those near and dear to us. This is why a mother will immediately attack if her offspring is in danger in the wild. The response is reflex and doesn’t require conscious thought because it has been hardwired into our brains for thousands of years.

E: Environment

No one likes their personal space to be invaded. We will react violently to protect our territory, homes and valuables.

M: Mates

As the saying goes, “All’s fair in love and war.” In the wild, aggressive behavior can be seen as attractive. When we were little, we were told that if a boy hits you, it’s because he likes you.

Unfortunately, often times rage comes from those closest to us. Domestic violence is not going down, even after years of awareness and education. Why not? Because it is very difficult to leave your mate after years together.

O: Order

For most, it’s instinct to just follow the order and get by in life. We tend to begrudge those who threaten to disrupt an established system or rules. Rage frequently breaks out in response to a perceived social injustice. This happens when someone cuts us off on the highway or cuts in line at the grocery store.

R: Resources

Resources such as food, water, shelter, money or material objects are part of our resources. If the resource is scarce, violence is often used to obtain or retrain these resources.

T: Tribe


Throughout history, humans have been divided by tribe, country, or religion, attacking and defending against one another. We defend those with whom we belong. Our rage is often linked to gang violence, race, gender or sexual orientation biases.

S: Stopped

When you feel caged or stuck by a situation or another person, you might lash out in sudden anger. Think a traffic jam or being stuck in a job you hate.


When a sudden sense of overwhelming anger arises, instantly ask yourself if it is being provoked by one of the LIFEMORTS triggers. Being able to quickly identify the triggers of your aggression can be much more effective than trying to put a lid on it.


Life Rage can Help


Order your copy of Life Rage by Timothy A. Dimoff by calling his office at 330-255-1101, Monday through Friday, 9 am to 5 PM EST. In this book, Tim deals with the many common sense ways to identify and deal with your anger before it turns into rage.