Yesterday, a road rage incident happened in Sarasota, Florida where two men exchanged words in at an intersection, pulled into a nearby parking lot, got out of their cars and started beating on each other. One man had a knife and pulled it out. He stabbed the other man in the face several times and the knife victim is currently in the hospital.
What were they arguing about? Texting!
How could this been avoided and where did this seriously go wrong?
5 Tips to Avoid Road Rage
According to Author Timothy A. Dimoff this incident could have been avoided. In his book, Life Rage, he points out several items when dealing with the other guy, which are listed on Page 117-118 of his book. Here is a synopsis:
- In this incident, the men should have never pulled over into a parking lot.
If you are that concerned about another person’s actions and it causes you road rage, call 9-1-1 immediately and report the other driver. If possible, have the make, model and license plate of the vehicle. Explain what just happened and what direction they are traveling in.
- If you are stationary, don’t get out of your car.
Sometimes, you are in the middle of a freeway with slow-moving or stationary traffic. Even if you have words with someone, don’t get out of your car! This shows an aggressive nature on your part and can escalate the situation. Again, call 9-1-1 and report the incident and use your phone to record another person’s aggressive behavior toward you.
- Don’t respond with an angry gesture.
Avoid eye contact and move your vehicle away from this situation at the earliest possible time.
- It is not your job to teach someone else how to drive.
Yes, there are a lot of bad drivers out there, but you are not going to teach them anything by “flipping them off” or yelling at them. Chances are you are just going to make them even angrier, hence the situation in Sarasota. Be calm and call the police.
In a study cited in Life Rage (page 118), 85% of the enraged drivers would have dropped the matter if the driver causing the problem would have apologized for their action. If you are in the wrong, such as texting and driving, state that you made a mistake and you are sorry for any problems it caused the other person.
Want More Information about Life Rage?
You can obtain your author-signed copy of Life Rage by calling Timothy Dimoff’s office at 330-255-1101. If you would like Tim to come out and speak about this subject to your community group or company, please contact Tim at: http://timothydimoff.com/index.html – he is also available for media interviews and webinars.
Why did this Marysville-Pilchuck High School Homecoming Prince who was very popular with fellow students, turn to gun violence the next week — killing himself, another student and injuring four others?
And is this statement really true? “Nobody expected it from him,” said fellow classmate Jordan Luton.
Watch this brief video and you be the judge School Rage: Jaylen Fryberg Scenerio.
What We Know or Think We Know About This School Shooter
Jayden Fryberg was a Native American who belonged to the Tulalip tribe. He was viewed by his tribe and schoolmates as “very nice”. Fryberg was an outdoorsman that liked to go hunting and he had access to guns.
Was He a Victim of Bullying?
However, it appears that all was not as it seemed. He got into a fight after racial slurs were said to him and was suspended from school.
His tweets said, “Your not gonna like what happens next!!!” and “It breaks me…It actually does…I know it seems like I’m sweating it off…but I’m not”.
It is difficult to determine exactly what these tweets mean and who he was targeting, however the message is clear – he was not as happy as his outward appearance looked.
This Statement Says it All
“Sadly, we are now experiencing what has become a national trend, which we as a society, must address,” stated Tulalip Indian Tribal Chief Herman Williams, Senior.
What Life Rage Says About School Rage
Author Timothy Dimoff talked about the warning signs of School Rage in his book Life Rage. He states that according to the Secret Service, a large majority of school shooters do something to attract the attention of a teacher, schoolmate or police officer well before they turn to gun violence. Here are some other facts that are sited from page 74 of Life Rage:
- School Shooters are Between 11 and 21 Years Old
- They Cross All Races and Socioeconomic Backgrounds and
- 67% Have Been Bullied Before This Incident
Life Rage also references talking to your children is vital to understanding and defusing situation like this. A great resource is a website titled Children Now.
Want More Information on School Rage and How to Solve it?
Order the Life Rage Book! Please go to our website and follow the instructions of the right side of the page. Author Timothy Dimoff will sign the book and mail it to you.
There is hope…you don’t have to let School Rage consume you!
According to a series of Alerts recently issued by The Joint Commission, an independent, not-for-profit organization that accredits and certifies more than 18,000 health care organizations and programs in the United States, hospitals are not immune to the violence found in the other areas of our lives. They noted assault, rape and homicide are consistently in the top 10 types of serious events reported to The Joint Commission and these instances are vastly under-reported.
There is truly no safe haven from violent behavior when not only our homes, but our churches and hospitals are under attack from without and within. Patients, staff and visitors are exposed to the same anxiety-ridden fears that plague our neighborhoods and inner-cities. At one end of the spectrum, patients and workers are dealing with issues of over-work, exhaustion and personal problems. At the same time Emergency Rooms are the targets of gang retaliation and warfare. And there is an endless array of unacceptable behaviors that fall into the continuum.
What can we do when our places of rest and selfless dedication to the welfare of others become a battleground?
Here are recommendations from The Joint Commission with my own thoughts:
- Evaluate the facility’s risk levels
- Take extra security precautions in the emergency department
- Conduct thorough background checks of all full, part time and temporary employee
- Report crime to law enforcement
- Train staff and security to work cohesively with and when around patients and their respective family members
- Create a stronger sense of a “Security Presence”
Rage and violence in our society is not an easy tide to turn, but we must make decreasing violence a priority. Our homes must once again become our refuge, our churches places of spiritual nurturance, and our hospitals a beacon of selfless service free from the terrorizing trauma of violence.
Lastly, this needs to be done now! If we allow the “fire to be fed” it will only escalate our current situation, making it much more difficult to resolve.
How Life Rage can Help
If you have not read my book Life Rage (ISBN 978-1413428698) please call my office at SACS Consulting at 1-888-722-7937 or order online via Amazon. It details how these incidents can be prevented or minimized in the workplace. I am also available to speak on this subject.
NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell is under pressure to do good. With more and more players being indicted for domestic violence, most people are wondering if the NFL has turned a blind eye on this terrifying crime for years.
Here’s a cold, hard fact: Since 2000, there have been 87 arrests of 80 NFL players, linking them to domestic violence.
- The NFL has 2,016 players between the ages of 21-39 years old.
- According to the Wall Street Journal, approximately 4% of males in this age category will perpetrate partner violence each year – so if you extrapolate that figure - approximately 80 of the current NFL Players will fit this mold.
- Yet, only 1/4th of all domestic violence perps will garner an arrest.
Here are several possible solutions to this heinous crime. Some are being pursued, while other are in the talking stage:
- Anger management classes for those convicted of violence
- Education of coaches and staff to identify and report individuals who exhibit these traits
- Family services hotline for wives, girlfriends and children of NFL players
- Creation of a NFL women’s advisory committee to advocate for the victims. This is actually already happening in partnership with the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
- The NFL gives a multi-year, multimillion dollar pledge to the National Domestic Violence Hotline. This too is already happening.
- Suspension of a number of games for these players
- Lifetime suspension for a second offense
Here is What Life Rage Author Timothy A. Dimoff Suggests
While Tim believes in the items listed above, he thinks the convicted players should play for 25% of their contracted salary for the rest of their career. Where will the rest of the salary go? Tim wants it to be put in a fund for domestic violence education and training to be overseen by the NFL, domestic violence experts and psychologists.
What do you think is the right answer?
About Life Rage
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According to a study effective supervisors must know the limits of all the people on their team. However, most untrained supervisors don’t understand how to adjust to the needs of their team, some of who may have been former co-workers or even close friends.
- Poor communication skills
- Weak leadership capabilities
- Managers unable or unwilling to adapt to change
- Poor relationship builders
Do you feel as though “You’ve turned your” best employees…. into your worst supervisors” simply by promoting them and not properly training them in their new role? Recognizing these potential problems before poor manager issues escalate is crucial to a well run business.
Most companies don’t realize that many of the staff being promoted has never been taught to MANAGE! SACS provides train-the-trainer education programs to make sure your star employees can still shine as your star supervisors!
You might be interested in one of our training classes: Effective Management in the Workplace